Letting Go Is Not The Same As Giving Up

Sometimes we hold onto things so tight that it does so much more damage than letting go ever would.

That’s because there’s a constant struggle between what we feel and what we know, like the famous fight – heart vs. mind.

Even though we know the best thing would be to let go, sometimes it seems impossible. Sometimes letting go seems like we failed to make our love stay.

And even the thought of letting go is so painful that we would rather stay somewhere we don’t belong. We would tolerate being miserable and unhappy rather than letting go of the one we care deeply for.

We are so stubborn and persistent in making our relationship work that we just end up even more hurt. We keep thinking if we long for something enough that something will change.

Our love will change them and make them realize our worth. We think if we focus on all the good things then all the bad ones will disappear.

But, they never do. The only things that seem to disappear are our hopes and dreams.

When we no longer see a solution, we cut the cord even though it hurts. We let go because we no longer see the point in staying.

It doesn’t mean that we gave up, it doesn’t make us quitters. It just means that we stayed for way too long, that we tried too hard and that it took us nowhere.

Letting go means we invested our time, patience and energy and we got nothing in return. It means we were with someone who was unwilling to invest the same amount of effort in us.

It means they just made things worse. It means that we are tired of fighting alone and being alone.

It doesn’t mean that we gave up – it means we let go of someone who didn’t want to stay. It means they were never meant to stay.

It means that we let go of someone who was never truly ours. It’s not giving up, because you can’t keep what’s not yours – you have to let it go.

It doesn’t mean we weren’t strong enough. It means we were stronger than ever before.

It means we were brave, because it takes courage and guts to leave the one you love. Because he’s the same one who is hurting your soul and making your heart bleed.

It means that by walking away from them we walked towards ourselves.

That we realized that we have our own path to follow and the person we are with is just an obstacle down the road.

And we know deep down that obstacles are there to be overcome. We know that behind them there is a whole different path to follow, if we would just open our eyes.

Sometimes we are too close to see. Holding on blindly make us lose sight of the bigger picture. It makes us concentrate on the problem, not on the solution.

It makes us hope for something that will never be. We would not lose sight of everything that could be if we could simply let go. Because we never know what the future has in store for us.

We know now that by letting go of them we didn’t give up on ourselves. We know it means that for once we chose ourselves.

We chose to make our lives better and happier. It means we want that inner peace that we never had with them. It means we made room for better things to come our way.

That’s why we didn’t give up on love. We gave real love a chance by letting go of the one who wasn’t meant to be.

We gave ourselves a chance for a better life. We gave ourselves a chance to be happy.