He Was A Mistake But The Rest Of Your Life Doesn’t Have To Be

Mistakes always seem fatal at first.

Especially mistakes that have to do with love. Love is what hurts the most.

The man I thought I loved the most, the man I gave my everything to, ended up being nothing but a mistake in the end.

I felt so defeated so many times and almost gave up on everything because of that single mistake.

I actually wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, I’d never felt that way about anybody else.

The reality was different. I had to accept it.

Yes, he cost me my time, yes, he cost me my health and my attention. I felt robbed by another person – and they’re not things you can get back.

No. I gave priceless things to someone who didn’t even recognize them.

The things we give to our “mistakes” are gone forever once the person is gone.

All we’re left with are consequences and our own battle with the question: How do I move on from here?

Now, listen to me. Romantic love is a big part of life. Many factors depend on it. It just makes life a better and more fulfilling experience.

We feel constant longing if we don’t have it. It’s like the lifelong obsession of almost every human being.

However, focusing on what was and what is lacking isn’t going to do anything for us. In fact, it will just make things worse.

Yes, he was a mistake. So what? You have to snap yourself out of it.

Look around you, look AT yourself. You’re a whole badass woman with so many things to offer the world. Don’t hide beneath the regrets from your past.

Don’t spill tears over a man who was never even on your level to begin with.

Don’t spill your tears over someone who clearly didn’t deserve you.

Why would you want someone who didn’t recognize your love?

Don’t sell yourself short. Your whole life is waiting for you.

Your life is not over because of that one mistake. Mistakes are what give dynamic to our life. It’s what keeps us going. It’s what keeps us learning.

Even if it’s something painful or embarrassing.

Choose to learn, not to sink.

It’s something that had to happen because life has something bigger in store for you.

Life is a box of possibilities – you just need to make the first step toward what you want.

Think about what you want! 

Most importantly – don’t dwell on the past. You can’t change it; you can’t go back to it.

Let it go.

Make some space for the new things to come. You can’t change the past but you can choose your future. Make it a good one.

Give your life some respect. Notice the beautiful and good things in life. Be grateful for them.

Be grateful for your mistakes too.

Without mistakes, we would be blind to that one crucial part of ourselves. Without mistakes, we would never realize our self-worth and our strength.

Our mistakes show us how strong we really are.

Without mistakes, you wouldn’t have the opportunity to grow and widen your perspective.

With the bigger perspective comes the bigger opportunity. Seize it!

Your mistakes don’t define you; they redirect you. Don’t resist the flow of life. Hop onto the boat and grab the paddles.

The path you’re taking because of your mistake is the one that’s meant for you. If you can’t see it now, you’ll see it later.

True love will come your way when you’re ready for it. Be prepared.

Embrace all the things in life. The good and the bad. Take everything that’s valuable and don’t look back.

Let your mistake be the teacher who shaped you to be the unique person you are today: a stronger, braver, and more beautiful unapologetic you.