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False twin flames: Everything you need to know!


The concept of twin flames is undoubtedly intriguing, but it’s important to be aware that there is another aspect to consider: the existence of false twin flames.

That’s right, false twin flames are a phenomenon that can occur. If you’re curious to learn more about false twin flames and how to identify them in your own life, continue reading for further insights.

What are false twin flames?

Discovering your twin flame can propel you into a relationship that surpasses any prior experiences you’ve had. These relationships, although not always easy, have the power to foster personal growth and evolution unlike any other partnership.

One of the remarkable aspects of twin flame relationships is the profound love they awaken within you, an experience that transcends anything you’ve ever felt before.

However, on your journey to finding your true twin flame or other half, you may encounter individuals who initially appear to be your twin flame but turn out to be false twin flames.

At the beginning of a relationship with a false twin flame, everything may feel genuine and authentic. Yet, as time progresses, you start to notice their lack of commitment and support, reaching a point where denial is no longer possible.

The connection with a false twin flame tends to feel superficial. Regardless of your efforts, something always feels off in the relationship, though pinpointing the exact issue proves challenging.

It’s crucial to trust your instincts and recognize the signs of a false twin flame to avoid getting entangled in a connection that doesn’t align with your true path.

There are lots of similarities between your false and your real twin flame (hence the danger of mixing them up accidentally):

  • They come into your life at a crucial point
  • They flood you with love and affection
  • You feel a deep desire to be with them

Nevertheless, your false twin flame will feel nice at first, but essentially, the relationship doesn’t really get you anywhere at all.

Are false twin flames bad or dangerous?

Contrary to popular belief, false twin flame relationships are not inherently bad or dangerous.

While it’s true that false twin flame relationships can be accompanied by pain, they primarily evoke a sense of confusion and unfulfillment because your heart longs for your true twin flame.

However, this doesn’t mean that the relationship itself is fundamentally negative.

In fact, false twin flame relationships often contain elements of fun and excitement. The main challenge lies in the feeling of stagnation, where you sense a lack of progress.

The positive aspect of a false twin flame relationship is that it serves as a guiding force, showing you what you truly desire in a relationship.

Personally, I believe that no relationship is entirely “bad.” While there may be relationships that require ending promptly, every relationship has the potential to teach valuable lessons.

Additionally, it’s important to recognize that your false twin flame is not intentionally trying to harm you. They are likely experiencing the same confusion as you are.

Signs that you’ve met your false twin flame

Identifying a false twin flame may not always be a straightforward task, leaving you with questions about whether you have indeed encountered one.

Fortunately, there are certain signs you can observe to help discern the authenticity of your twin flame connection.

When considering these signs, it’s important to remember the essence of your true twin flame:

They are your complementary counterpart, a vibrational resonance to the core of your soul.

The truth is, if someone is genuinely your twin flame, there will be no doubt, as the connection between you will be undeniable.

Without further delay, let’s explore some indications that you may be involved with a false twin flame.

1) They don’t want to commit to you

A big indicator of being in a false twin flame relationship is a lack of commitment in one way or another.

Excuses will come up, and they can range from anything like bad timing to needing to be free all in an effort to not commit to you.

You see, a relationship with a false twin flame will present you with all the right characteristics of a real twin flame, like:

  • Passion
  • Deep emotional bonds
  • Intensity
  • Strong feelings

In essence, they will show you exactly what it will feel like to be with your twin, just that they won’t commit to you as your real twin will.

The best part? In case they leave, they are actually doing you a favor.

Your false twin taught you what you’ll feel with your real twin, and now they went and made space so that your real twin has a chance to come into your life.

2) You feel a lot of anxiety


Conversely, a false twin flame relationship not only reveals the positive aspects of being with a twin flame but also exposes what you do not desire in a relationship.

Being involved with a false twin flame often leads to feelings of anxiety and insecurity. It may be challenging to identify the exact cause of these emotions, but an underlying unease persists.

At times, this unease arises from a dynamic of mixed signals, with the false twin playing hot and cold. In other instances, the source may be less apparent. Regardless, a general sense of discomfort prevails.

In contrast, a genuine twin flame connection feels like returning home. It provides a profound sense of comfort and safety, establishing an environment where you can truly be yourself.

3) They have a different vision of the future

One significant red flag in any relationship is when you and your partner have incompatible dreams. This can create complications and challenges.

Incompatibility in dreams doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to want exactly the same things. However, if your core values and long-term aspirations are fundamentally misaligned, building a future together becomes difficult.

For instance, if your partner envisions a life in New York City, prioritizing a corporate career and financial success, while having no desire for pets or children, while you yearn for a large family in a countryside setting, it becomes evident that one or both of you will consistently feel unhappy and unfulfilled.

Authentic twin flames share a profound alignment in their future visions. In fact, it’s a defining characteristic of encountering your true twin flame when your future goals are strikingly similar to the point where it almost feels uncanny.

4) You doubt them

If you find yourself reading this article, it is likely because deep within you, doubts have surfaced regarding your current partner.

If that is the case, I regret to inform you that your intuition may be pointing you in the right direction.

Encountering your true twin flame is accompanied by an immediate sense of recognition. It is a knowing that goes beyond doubt.

In essence, there is no room for uncertainty because the connection between you and your twin flame is simply undeniable.

Now, if you are experiencing doubts about your partner and the connection you share, it is highly probable that they may not be your true twin flame. Trusting your intuition in such instances can guide you towards finding the right path for your personal growth and fulfillment.

5) You’re starting to “wake up”, but they are not

As mentioned earlier, false twin flames often appear during times of personal transformation, particularly when you are experiencing a spiritual awakening.

Each person’s spiritual awakening is unique, but one thing is certain: you will unmistakably recognize it, as it becomes a significant presence in your life that cannot be easily ignored.

If you happen to be in a relationship with a false twin flame, they may inadvertently accelerate your spiritual awakening, which can be a positive outcome. However, it is crucial to note that they will not awaken alongside you. Instead, you may observe a growing distance between you as you continue on your spiritual path while they remain stagnant.

In contrast, your true twin flame will journey with you along this transformative path. The essence of your relationship will revolve around mutual growth and evolution, as you both embark on a shared spiritual journey.


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6) Past issues are coming up

Your false twin flame is highly likely to trigger deep-seated emotional wounds within you, even those you thought were resolved from your childhood or past experiences.

The purpose of these triggering moments is to facilitate a process of purging and releasing any lingering emotional triggers that hinder your ability to fully embrace and surrender to your true twin flame.

While it’s true that your true twin flame may also trigger you at times, the focus of your relationship with them will predominantly revolve around future growth and co-creation, rather than dwelling on past wounds. The emphasis lies in moving forward together rather than getting caught up in unresolved past issues.

7) Your success threatens them

A genuine twin flame will wholeheartedly support and cheer for your success, viewing your accomplishments as their own and vice versa.

On the other hand, a false twin flame behaves quite differently in this regard.

Instead of genuinely wanting what’s best for you, they see you as competition and may become envious of your achievements.

While they may outwardly pretend to be happy for you, there is an underlying sense of resentment in their energy.

It’s important to understand that your false twin flame doesn’t wish for your failure. Rather, they perceive your success as a threat to their own position.

Without having undergone their own spiritual awakening, they have yet to internalize the understanding that the universe is abundant and that someone else’s success does not diminish their own potential.

In contrast, a true twin flame is aware of this truth and will joyfully celebrate and uplift you in your victories, knowing that your success contributes to the collective abundance.

8) They run when things get hard

Relationships, whether they are twin flame connections or regular ones, are never without their challenges.

However, the notable distinction between a real twin flame and a false one is how they respond when faced with difficulties. When the going gets tough, false twin flames tend to flee, seeking an easy way out instead of putting in the effort to work through the issues.

On the other hand, a true twin flame stands in stark contrast. Regardless of how daunting the situation may appear, even in the face of significant challenges, they choose to stay by your side and actively work towards finding resolutions together.

Isn’t it reassuring to know that you have someone who will weather the storms with you, through thick and thin?

You deserve a partner who demonstrates such unwavering commitment and support. Rest assured, there are individuals like that out there, waiting to meet you and share a deep and enduring connection.

9) You can’t be yourself with them

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt unable to express your true self, fearing that you wouldn’t be fully accepted and embraced?

If this resonates with your current situation, I’m sorry to say that you may not be with your genuine twin flame.

This could mean:

  • Being quiet about beliefs you know your partner doesn’t agree with out of fear of them not accepting them
  • Hiding aspects of yourself because they might mock you
  • Denying parts of yourself because they might judge them

As you can probably imagine, none of that is part of a healthy relationship.

On the other hand, your real twin flame will make you so secure in your bond that you feel like you can talk to them about anything.

You feel seen, heard, and accepted. They love and accept every aspect of your being and vice versa.

Simply put, you share unconditional love.

10) You are left guessing

A false twin flame often makes grand promises that they struggle to fulfill. In essence, they tend to overpromise and underdeliver.

They possess the ability to identify exactly what you want to hear, and they will say it to keep you hooked.

However, the consequence of this behavior is that you are left feeling confused and uncertain about the direction of your relationship. Despite their promises, you never truly feel safe or secure.

The positive news is that your true twin flame will not engage in such manipulative games.

With your true twin flame, there is no need for guesswork or uncertainty. You have a clear understanding of where you stand in the relationship, and honesty becomes a natural and integral part of your connection.

11) You aren’t sure why you are with them

Real twin flame relationships are characterized by a strong sense of purpose, deep love, and unwavering clarity about the connection.

Conversely, a false twin flame relationship often leaves you questioning the true purpose of your connection.

Eventually, you will come to comprehend the role and purpose this false twin flame has served in your life.

As we established earlier, every relationship holds valuable lessons and serves a purpose. However, while you are still in the midst of the false twin flame connection, the significance of these lessons may not be readily apparent to you. It can be challenging to discern the reasons behind the connection and what you are meant to learn from it.

Trust me, a real twin flame relationship will fill you with so much purpose that these doubts don’t even have a chance to cross your mind.

12) They don’t let you in

A big characteristic of you being with a false twin flame is that they keep you at arm’s length and nothing you do seems to change that.

You will notice things such as:

  • In times of need, they might not be there for you
  • When having an argument, they give you the silent treatment
  • They avoid doing things for you
  • They don’t open up about their feelings with you

A real twin flame is there for you, no matter what.

You won’t have to fear abandonment, as they will never be emotionally unavailable when you truly need them.

This connection is so deep and groundbreaking, it’ll be like nothing you’ve ever experienced before.

13) They put you down

It is no surprise that belittling or demeaning your partner is a significant red flag in any relationship.

If your supposed “twin flame” consistently makes disparaging remarks or mocks you, especially in front of others, it is a clear indication that they are not your true twin flame.

Constructive criticism can be a part of a healthy relationship. However, criticism stops being constructive when it causes significant emotional harm.

It goes without saying that your true twin flame would never treat you in such a manner. Disagreements and conflicts are resolved through respectful and loving communication, rather than resorting to putting you down or mocking you.

14) They love you conditionally


It’s no secret that twin flame relationships are based on unconditional love.

In case you’re asking yourself what unconditional love is, it means that:

  • What you do
  • What you say
  • Your mood
  • Your relationship status with them

Doesn’t influence the fact that they love you.

That doesn’t mean you need to be unhealthily attached to one another, it just means loving the other person enough to want what’s best for them, even if it’s not with you.

When you argue, it will also be from a place of love, not always agreeing, but always having respect for one another.

Your false twin flame will love you conditionally. That means, your actions, mood, etc. will influence the amount of love they show you.

15) You self-sabotage

In false twin flame relationships, things can feel both right and wrong simultaneously, creating a state of confusion.

The challenging aspect is that this confusion and emotional toll can potentially drive you towards self-sabotage and engaging in habits that hinder your personal growth and evolution.

These habits could be:

  • Smoking
  • Drinking
  • Not working out
  • Not sleeping
  • Stopping to meditate
  • Not journaling anymore

You are trying to use these external things to numb the pain you feel.

To tell you the truth, a real twin won’t have you reaching for drugs in order to cope and feel okay.

On the contrary, this relationship will have you deepen your self-care because they inspire you to love yourself even deeper.


16) You are being let down on a regular basis

There’s a meaningful quote that resonates with this sentiment: “Love is a verb; it’s not about how often you say ‘I love you,’ but how often you demonstrate it through actions.”

In your relationship, it’s crucial to focus on the actions rather than just the words. Take note of how frequently your partner shows their love for you.

Do they consistently follow through on their commitments or do they frequently let you down by canceling plans at the last minute or not being there for you in times of need?

From my personal experience, false twin flames may shower you with daily declarations of love in lengthy paragraphs. However, if their actions don’t align with their words, it becomes empty and meaningless.

In contrast, your true twin flame will demonstrate their love for you through both actions and words. Their actions will consistently reflect the depth of their feelings and the value they place on your connection.

17) It doesn’t feel like you are partners

At times, we find ourselves in a relationship where we struggle to envision a shared future with the other person. It feels as if we are walking separate paths, and our current journey happens to intersect for a period of time.

If that is the case and there is no common destination on the horizon, our paths can quickly diverge, even faster than we can say “twin flame.”

Over time, we may notice ourselves drifting further apart in such relationships.

A genuine twin flame, on the other hand, is aligned with our goals and walks alongside us in the same direction. With them, there is no need to worry about the future because they seamlessly fit into our life like a missing puzzle piece.

18) You are stagnating

True twin flames act as catalysts for personal growth and evolution. Although the journey may not always be easy, they inspire and challenge you to continuously evolve.

In their presence, you begin to question your reality, beliefs, dreams, and opinions. This process encourages you to step out of your comfort zone and move closer to becoming your highest self.

On the contrary, false twin flames do not foster such growth, often leaving you feeling stagnant and trapped in a rut.

Now, it is important to acknowledge that ultimately, your personal growth and evolution are your own responsibility. However, if your partner does not ignite any sense of inspiration within you, it is a clear indication that they are not your true twin flame. Your true twin flame will naturally inspire and motivate you to reach new heights on your journey of self-discovery and growth.

19) You feel like you don’t know them

If you have a good understanding of twin flames, you’ll know that encountering your true twin flame is akin to gazing into a mirror. There’s an immediate recognition and a profound sense of familiarity.

Consider this: if you feel like you don’t truly know your partner, how can they be your genuine twin flame?

Often, this disconnect manifests as a deep-seated awareness that something is missing or lacking in the level of understanding between you and your partner.

It doesn’t matter if they share every detail of their past with you; you still don’t experience a genuine sense of truly knowing each other on a profound level.

20) They don’t protect you

No matter what relationship you’re in, you want to feel protected by your partner in one way or another.

This means:

  • They help you when they can
  • They step up for you
  • They protect you from big or small things

They don’t? Then you’re most likely in a false twin flame relationship.

A real twin will do anything to protect you. After all, you’re a part of them as much as they are a part of you.

What to do when you realize you’re with a false twin flame

Now: you realized that the person you’re with is a false twin flame, should you run for the hills?

Not necessarily.

If you focus on the problems you have in your relationship and work on fixing them, the entire experience can still be extremely deep and passionate.

This is especially important if a part of you doesn’t feel ready to let go of them just yet.

After all, they might be a “false twin flame”, but the mere fact that they felt like your twin suggests that you have a lot in common and have a passionate connection.

Enjoy it, learn from it, and who knows, maybe you end up growing together after all!

In case you feel ready to break up with them, know that this can be a painful experience.

Sure, you know they aren’t your real twin flame and there are people out there who will make both of you happier, but that doesn’t change the fact that you have deep feelings for one another.

Remember that if you’re meant to be with someone, you will find a way to make things work, or you’ll find back to one another in the future.

Chances are, you are already feeling like this relationship is not meant for you.

In that case, staying will only result in unhealthy patterns.

Trust me, I know that it’s hard to break up, fear of being alone is a real thing and nothing to be ashamed of.

However, being in an unfulfilling relationship drains you way more than being alone ever could, believe me.

Make space for your real twin flame to enter your life if you already know that this relationship won’t last.

How to break up with a false twin flame

If you’re ready to break up with your false twin flame, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Essentially, they are the same things you would want to consider with any kind of breakup:

  • Should you do it in private or would it feel safer to break up in public?
  • Think about logistics. If you’re living together, consider who will move out and where you could potentially go
  • Telling friends or family about it so they can be there for you
  • Prepare for feeling like crap. Even when you’re the one breaking up, it usually doesn’t save you from big feelings

Now: I know, breakups aren’t fun and you’ll be tempted to drag out the time to do it. But let me tell you, it’s better to get it over with sooner rather than later.

This gives both of you a chance to meet the person you’re destined to be with.

Other things to remember are:

  • Break up in your mind first. Think about all the reasons you’re breaking up so that the happy memories don’t make it harder than it already is.
  • Always be respectful, but firm. Be clear and establish firm boundaries. You can be kind while still making it crystal clear that the relationship is over
  • Don’t be afraid to get emotional. It’s completely normal and not a sign that you’re making a mistake.

After the breakup

The time after a breakup is never an easy one, even if you were the one calling the shots.

Make sure to reach out to family and friends for support during this time.

Expect to feel loneliness and isolation in the first weeks, it is normal. A good way to cope with it is by calling up your friends.

Hanging out with them is also a great idea, it will help take your mind off of things.

Also, now is the time to focus on one relationship in particular: The one with yourself.

Usually, relationships tend to make us more focused on a partner and less on ourselves.

Use this time now to build a beautiful relationship with yourself.

Trust me when I say that this will help you not only feel better, but it will improve all of your future relationships, as well!

So, how do you do that?

To improve your relationship with yourself, you need to focus on self-care.

This means taking care of yourself on all levels: physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Physically, you can:

  • Make sure to move every day
  • Drink plenty of water
  • Get enough sleep each night
  • Rest when your body needs it
  • Get sunshine and fresh air every day
  • Eat a diverse palate of foods
  • Take care of your hygiene
  • Do nice things like getting your hair done or buying clothes that make you feel good

Mentally, you can:

  • See a therapist or coach
  • Start journaling
  • Meditate
  • Do breathwork

Spiritually, you can:

  • Work on your relationship with whatever you believe in
  • Deepen your connection with yourself
  • Meditate
  • Pray
  • Spend time in nature
  • Do tarot readings

Of course, these are only a few ideas you can try to implement into your day-to-day life.

In my own experience, implementing just a few of these changes will make a world of a difference in how you feel.

It will be so much easier to get over the breakup, and simultaneously, you will move closer to being your best self, ready to meet your true twin flame.

Don’t let it discourage you


It is understandable that this realization can be disheartening, especially when you believed they were the one you would spend your life with.

However, take solace in the fact that there is someone out there who is meant for you.

To find your true twin flame, it is important to:

  • Trust your intuition: Listen to your inner voice and trust your instincts when it comes to recognizing genuine connections.
  • Focus on self-discovery: Prioritize getting to know yourself on a deep level before seeking out your true twin flame. This self-awareness will guide you towards a more authentic and fulfilling connection.
  • Take care of yourself: Nurture your well-being, both physically and emotionally. By doing so, you raise your vibrations and attract positive energies into your life.
  • Maintain an open mind and be proactive: Stay open to new experiences and put yourself out there, whether through social activities, networking, or engaging in communities aligned with your interests. This increases the likelihood of encountering your true twin flame.

By following these steps, you will eventually find your genuine twin flame, and the lessons learned from your experience with the false twin will become clear. Everything unfolds as it is meant to, leading you closer to your highest self.

Remember, this journey of finding your true twin flame is lifelong, and every encounter along the way contributes to your personal growth and evolution.

Your authentic twin flame awaits you, and this experience with the false twin was an essential part of your twin flame journey.


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Infinity Kelly

Infinity Kelly(she/her) is a freelance writer and astrologer who covers news, lifestyle, and entertainment topics, including astrology and relationships. She regularly contributes to elitedaily, Wooman’s Day, and YouGov, among other publications. When she’s not working, you can find her running, traveling, or scrolling TikTok. Follow her on Twitter.

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