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“My twin flame destroyed my life”: 11 tips to overcome this pain

Twin flames can be incredible connections, but sometimes, they will leave your life in shards.

Do you feel like your twin flame destroyed your life, rather than made it better?

That is a terrible thing to realize, but I have 10 tips on how you can deal with the pain that comes with this realization:

1) Don’t forget who you are

The most important thing you should do is to remember who you are.

You cannot let the pain of being without your twin flame consume you.

Remembering who you are will help remind you that there are others out there who need your guidance and love.

It will help keep your ego in check and make sure that the twin flame experience does not change you for the worse.

If anything, it should only enhance how amazing of a person you already are.

But that’s not all!

Remembering who you are will also remind you of the fact that your twin flame does not have the power to destroy you, you are too powerful for that.

Remember that you can move on from this experience and be happy again.

It’s normal to lose yourself a bit while you are in a relationship, especially when it’s as intense as a twin flame relationship.

However, now is your chance to reconnect with who you are and what you love to do.

Go and do your favorite hobbies again, meet friends you haven’t seen in a while and rediscover who you are without your twin flame.

That brings me to my next point:

2) Remember you are whole all by yourself

It’s so easy to feel lost when you finally break up with your twin flame but remember that you are whole all by yourself.

Part of the reason why your relationship felt so magical was because of the intense connection and empathy you had with the other person.

But now that you are alone, don’t forget about how much you love yourself.

Remembering your worth is a good way to overcome this pain.

You see, twin flames are said to be your “other half”. I’m not a huge fan of this terminology, to be honest.

While your twin flame might be your mirror soul, I don’t believe they are your other half, as you are already whole all by yourself!

Realizing this will be an important step in your journey to healing.

You are already whole, no matter what you do, you always have been and always will be.

You don’t need to be with your twin flame to feel complete.

Once you start working on really internalizing this truth, you will notice that it’s a lot easier to deal with the pain of your twin flame destroying your life.

3) Talk to a gifted advisor

The points we cover in this article will give you a good idea of what you can do when your twin flame has destroyed your life.

But even with our expert advice, we know how unique every situation is.

That’s why we recommend getting a personalized reading to really address the issues you’re facing.

The key, however, is finding someone trustworthy to speak to.

After a really challenging time in my love life, I found that speaking to an advisor from Psychic Source gave me the strength and motivation to get my life back on track.

The advisor I spoke to was kind, understanding of my situation, and genuinely helpful.

My love of reading shed light on my situation in a way I wasn’t able to see on my own, and I was finally able to clear my head and heal my heart.

Click here to get your own personalized love reading.

Not only can a gifted advisor tell you what to do now, but they can reveal all your future love possibilities.

4) Talk to friends or family

Talking to a friend, family member, or therapist can help.

They’ll be able to give you advice on how to move on and deal with the pain caused by a broken relationship.

You see, especially in the midst of a twin flame relationship, it can be easy to start neglecting friends and family a bit because you are so focused on your partner.

Talking to them will be a great way to remind yourself that you are loved and cared for.

It will also be a great way to get some advice on how to deal with your current situation.

You see, getting a third perspective or another point of view can be incredibly helpful when you are going through a rough patch in your life.

Your twin flame relationship is not the only thing in your life.

So start talking to people about what’s going on in your life and you’ll be surprised how much better you feel.

And the best part?

Talking to friends and family will make you feel like your life is not so destroyed, after all!

Because remember, you are not a victim of your twin flame’s actions. You still have control over your life.

And that makes you a strong, powerful person!

5) Let your emotions out

It’s important to let your emotions out, especially at the beginning of a break-up.

Staying silent won’t help you get over this pain.

You have to process how you feel and talk about it with people who will listen.

It is also important to have an outlet where you can release your emotions without fear of judgment or backlash.

You see, letting your emotions out is one of the most important parts of getting over the pain of your twin flame relationship.

When you don’t let your emotions out, they will stagnate, build up, and eventually come out in different ways and forms that may not be as desirable.

I know, it’s never fun to feel your feelings, it can get really uncomfortable and painful.

But it’s a necessary step of the healing process.

So, find a way to let your emotions out and you’ll be surprised at how much better you feel!

Everybody has a different way of dealing with their emotions, but some common outlets are:

  • creating art
  • writing
  • working out
  • screaming (yes, really!)
  • Punching a bag
  • crying
  • etc.

You see, no matter what you choose to do (you might even want to try multiple things), these things will be an amazing way to release your emotions.

And once they are out, you’ll feel much better.

Reach out to friends or family members and seek therapy if necessary to find people who support you in healing and rebuilding your life.

6) Take care of yourself

Next up, a way to deal with the pain of your twin flame destroying your life is taking extra good care of yourself.

I mean think about it: your twin flame destroyed your life – the last thing you need right now is to beat yourself up even more, right?

So, now is the perfect time to look after yourself and make sure you’re doing everything you can to take care of yourself.

You see, when you take care of yourself, you send a message to your subconscious that says: “I am worthy and I deserve good things!”

So, what does taking good care of yourself look like? Well, it can be anything from eating healthy food to going out with friends or family members, getting a massage, or going on a vacation.

Whatever brings you joy and makes you feel good – go do that! And don’t feel guilty about spending money on yourself, it is essentially just energy that shows your subconscious that you are worth it.

The more energy and focus you put into taking care of yourself, the better it will be for your health and well-being. You will feel better and it will help with your healing process!

7) Sit in the discomfort instead of escaping it

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they feel pain is to escape it.

For example, they might indulge in food or drugs to suppress the pain.

But this only makes the problem worse because you’re not addressing the core issue.

When we avoid the discomfort of feeling emotions, it makes us feel them even more intensely later on.

It can be helpful to sit with your feelings and experience them instead of escaping from them or trying to numb yourself from them with substances (like alcohol or drugs).

I know, this is probably the last thing you want to be doing right now, but believe me, it works wonders!

Sitting with your pain and discomfort, letting all those emotions roll through you and come out is really important for the healing process.

So, what can you do to make this easier?

I recommend taking a bath with some nice essential oils, reading a book and having some tea, or meditating.

Just find something that relaxes you and helps you feel better and more in control of your emotions.

When you sit with your emotions, they will eventually pass. It is definitely not easy but it is very rewarding in the long run!

And if sitting in those emotions alone feels too overwhelming?

That’s why I recommend getting a personalized reading by one of the gifted advisors over at Psychic Source.

I mentioned them earlier.

They’ve been a great source of comfort and guidance when I’ve faced issues in my love life, and their specialist advisers are well trained in the area of twin flames.

So, what are you waiting for?

From giving you clarity on the situation to supporting you as you make life-changing decisions, these advisors will empower you to make decisions about your love life with confidence.

Click here to get your personalized love reading.

8) Stay connected with yourself, your spirit, and your friends

The twin flame dynamic is intense. It can be the most difficult relationship you have ever experienced.

You need to stay connected with yourself and your friends and family, to help you deal with the pain.

When things get too much, your friends will rally around you and remind you that you are loved, even if your twin flame didn’t make you feel that.

Now that you are at a point where you are not with your twin flame anymore, it’s important to reconnect with yourself, your spirit, and your friends.

You see, it’s very probable that you have lost some part of those connections along the way.

That’s why it is so important to reconnect so that you can feel better and heal.

Please remember that you are not alone on this journey. You have your family and friends who are here for you, and they will love you no matter what!

And the best part?

Any relationship that has suffered while you were with your twin flame can be rebuilt!

It is only a matter of time and effort.

9) Set boundaries for yourself

Setting boundaries might seem like the last thing you want to do after your twin flame has just left, but in order to get past this, it’s necessary.

It doesn’t have to be too strict or rigid, but it should be something that will allow you time to heal while also allowing yourself a chance to live your life.

You see, your twin flame destroyed your life, so the least you can do for yourself right now is set boundaries, right?

Now: which boundaries am I talking about?

It really depends on the situation.

Maybe your boundaries have to do with your twin flame, like not talking to them or not allowing them in your space.

Or perhaps you are setting boundaries for your dating life, like that you don’t want to date for at least 6 months in order to heal from what happened.

There are many different boundaries that you can set for yourself, and you have to do it.

It’s the only way that you will begin to heal and move on.

You deserve it!

I know, that setting boundaries can be hard, especially with other people when you have never really done that in the past.

However, trust me, once you do it, you will feel better.

You will be able to breathe again and start living your life!

You can even help other people set boundaries if you want to, as this is a very important thing in life.

No one should have to deal with a twin flame or any kind of toxic relationship without setting some boundaries for themselves.

10) Work on your self-love

If you don’t love yourself, this means you are living in a space of scarcity, and the twin flame just left you feeling empty.

One of the best ways to create abundance is to focus on your self-love.

You see, your twin flame has left you feeling like your life is destroyed. Maybe you feel lost, alone, and like you are unworthy of love.

Well, let me tell you something: none of that is true!

This is why it’s so important for you to focus on self-love right now.

When other people aren’t there to show up for you, it’s time to show yourself some love.

You have to learn to appreciate yourself, love yourself, and see the beauty that you have.

This is the only way that you will truly heal and move on from this experience.

So: how can you create more self-love in your life?

Well, this is something that is different for everyone.

Maybe it’s getting a massage or taking a bath. Maybe it’s going out with friends or going on a solo adventure. Maybe it’s working on your business or doing yoga in the morning.

It really depends on what YOU want to do!

I want to encourage you to spend some time alone with yourself, doing whatever it is that brings you joy and makes you feel like your life isn’t so destroyed after all!

Maybe you can even try taking yourself out on dates!

11) Move forward

The most important step is to move forward with your life.

It will be hard, but you have to think of your future self and what they need.

Start by thinking about how you want to live the rest of your life.

Will you keep living in the pain of the past?

Or are you going to try and make a change for the better?

If you’re feeling stuck, there are many options that can help.

I know, after a relationship that felt like it destroyed your life, it can be really hard to move forward.

However, in order to heal, that is what you need to do. It’s time to leave all these feelings in the past, there is no need for them anymore.

In that regard, it will also be necessary to forgive your twin flame for whatever they have done for you.

I know, you’re probably like “Forgive them? Never!!” But let me tell you something, forgiveness is for you, not for them!

It’s going to be hard, but you have to do it. That doesn’t mean you have to talk to them ever again or let them into your life, simply forgive them in your heart.

Take the time you need to heal and move on.

You will never feel better if you are always stuck in the past.

You need to see this through and move forward with your life.

You just need to take baby steps at first and then go full speed ahead!

You got this

It’s terrible to feel like someone destroyed your life.

But you are stronger than you think and you will overcome even this obstacle!

No matter what happens, you got this and things will work out.

Hopefully, you should now have a good idea of what to do when you feel like your twin flame destroyed your life.

But if you’d still like to get more clarity on the situation, speaking to a gifted advisor is the best way to go.

I mentioned Psychic Source. Based on my own personal experience with them, I know they’re the real deal. Their advisors are kind and genuinely helpful.

So, if you really want to get to the bottom of what to do now, get in touch with an advisor and take your future into your own hands. I did, and it changed my life.

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Infinity Kelly

Infinity Kelly(she/her) is a freelance writer and astrologer who covers news, lifestyle, and entertainment topics, including astrology and relationships. She regularly contributes to elitedaily, Wooman’s Day, and YouGov, among other publications. When she’s not working, you can find her running, traveling, or scrolling TikTok. Follow her on Twitter.

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