Dealing with breakup

He Blocked Me: What Does It Mean And What To Do About It


You look at your phone and suddenly realize: He blocked me. You have probably no idea how and why it happened, let alone what to do about it. Well, today you’ll learn all you need to know about the potential reasons why he blocked you and what you can do about it!

Don’t worry. You’re not alone! Happened to me multiple times and I know it’s not really comforting, but all I’m saying is that blocking must be a trending thing for the guys. (Still, this doesn’t justify their stupid actions.)

And, don’t worry, him blocking you doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the end.

Honestly, If you don’t want it to be the end, there are always ways to get him back. The easiest way I know is just ONE CLICK away. I promise you won’t regret it.

There are many reasons why he’d do such a thing and sometimes it’s just because he needs some time and space (I’ll explain all of it in detail below).

Is Blocking Someone Immature?

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Yes, blocking someone is considered an immature way of handling the situation. Without any doubt, one of the worst things about modern dating is the fact that there are countless options, be it ignoring, muting, or blocking.

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Before, people would just stop seeing each other and the only way to block the other person was by using one’s imagination.

But today, with just one click, people erase potential partners, new relationships, or long-term relationships by blocking the person on social media. Wow. How mature.

I wish I could conclude all this by simply saying: “Modern dating requires modern solutions,” but it’s much more complex than that.

As already said, there are many reasons why a person would block someone.

There are many reasons why he would decide to do such an immature thing aka “delete you from his life,” and some of them are, let’s say, positive, and some not-so-positive.

Also, there are many ways to deal with it, and choosing the right one is of utmost importance! So, let’s get straight to work – you might want to buckle up because it’s gonna be a bumpy ride!

Related: What Happens When He Realizes You Blocked Him

What Does It Mean When A Guy Blocks You?

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The action of blocking an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend usually evokes one connotation and that is: moving on. But, not every block means just that. There are many possible reasons why a guy would block you and one of them is that he needs some time and space (or that he wants you to chase him).

When it comes to dealing with a problem, the first step is understanding why something happened.

Why all of a sudden would your ex block you from his social media account(s) (from his life) and prevent you from ever texting and reaching him again?

You would be surprised how many hidden meanings are behind this action on the spectrum of moving on to “playing hard to get and hoping you’ll chase him.”

worried woman sitting in bedroom at home

Yes. I know you’re probably reading this in disbelief, but trust me, guys are totally unpredictable, but not undecipherable.

Sometimes, when they want their ex back, guys use lame methods like blocking in the hope that you’ll decide to chase after them.

And sometimes, it just means that they’re moving on and turning a new page.

There are also some possible reasons in between these two, so let’s check out all of them and figure it all out along the way:

It hurts him too much to have you on social media

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On the contrary to women, Lord knows that men are so terrible at understanding their feelings to the extent of blocking the other person just because they have a hard time looking at her profile.

The drill goes something like this:

Maybe she already met someone new and I couldn’t stand it if I saw her with another guy.

Or maybe she’s perfectly happy without me while I’m still feeling miserable and it would be too painful to realize that.

I’ll just block her, so that I can’t receive text messages or phone calls from her, or see her pics ever again.

It would be easier for me if I don’t know what’s really going on in her life and whether or not she’s happy without me.

This is exactly what happens in a guy’s head who’s afraid of potential disappointment.

He cannot stand the fact that the person is still virtually present in his world and that he might see how happy they are without him.

So, he thinks blocking that person on social media will solve the issue – alas, it won’t in the long run.

There are still mutual friends who might at some point tell him everything about that one person he’s been desperately trying to ignore.

Deleting someone’s phone number or blocking them on social media is just a temporary solution, and after some time every guy realizes that (but sometimes a little too late).

He doesn’t want to hurt you

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As already said, men have always had difficulties dealing with their emotions, so they often choose shortcuts like blocking.

When they are confused about how they really feel about you and want to end things, but don’t want to do it in person, they choose a cowardly method of blocking you from their social media accounts.

They apply the no contact rule a little prematurely because they don’t want to leave you heartbroken. But, on the contrary, that’s exactly what they’re doing without even knowing it.

So, when a man blocks you because he doesn’t want to hurt you, he’s basically doing it because he doesn’t have the courage to do it in person.

He knows that he wouldn’t survive seeing you hurt and sad, and he’s afraid that he might either have second thoughts about the whole situation or say some mean things.

In his mind, blocking you is less painful than having a difficult convo. But, the real question is: who is it less painful for? For him, definitely.

Blocking you means he will not have insight into how you’re feeling about the whole thing. But what he doesn’t get is that not knowing how you feel doesn’t mean that you aren’t hurt.

Just because he doesn’t see you in tears, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling sad and confused.

But, it’s really hard, if not impossible to explain this to a man, so the only thing we can do is try to understand it and act accordingly.

He knows blocking you will hurt you

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On the flip side of the previous one, sometimes men choose to block you just because they know it will hurt you. I daresay that this reason is probably the worst-case scenario for any girl.

It’s evident that they want revenge because of something you did or said. And sometimes, they do it because they’re under false impressions.

Do you think your ex wants revenge?

If you’ve cheated on him or similar (which is usually the case with long distance relationships), then you know the real reason why he blocked you, but if you didn’t, then the situation is a little bit more complicated (but nothing we can’t solve together, right?)

Think about everything that happened lately (especially during last week) and try to connect the dots.

If you don’t succeed in it, try asking his best friends or your mutual Facebook friends whether they know something about his strange behavior and the reason why he decided to block you in the first place.

worried woman looking at her phone at home

You need to find the answer to why he would want to hurt you when you haven’t given him a reason to do so.

And if you can’t find it – not even when you’ve talked with all of his friends – then you know it’s something he probably imagined or misunderstood.

So, he blocked you on impulse because he didn’t want to talk to you about it or try to understand what really happened.

(And that impulse may cost him a lot later on.)

He wants to delete you from his life

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If you want him back, this one will probably hurt the most to hear. But, either way, you need to hear it.

So, when a guy decides that he wants to delete you from his life for good, he will use the blocking method.

The same thing happened to me last year. I was in a six-month relationship and all of a sudden he blocked my number without explaining why or ever saying anything.

So, the next day while I was trying to figure out what the hell happened, I saw a picture of him with another woman on Whatsapp and Snapchat.

Also, our mutual friend told me that he was probably already seeing someone else behind my back, but couldn’t say for sure.

I guess he decided it’s finally time to delete me for good and he did it by blocking me so that he can avoid all the drama.

Now, I’m not saying that your guy wants to delete you from his life because he found someone else.

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It’s one of the possibilities, but it’s not necessarily the truth. Other possible reasons why a guy would want to delete you from his life are the following:

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All the above reasons are too painful to think about, so you shouldn’t think about them at all.

Whatever the reason behind him wanting to delete you from his life, know that he’s not even worthy of being with you.

If he belongs to any above category, you definitely don’t need complications in your life because, trust me, men like this aren’t worthy of it.

(Spending time on Tinder would be far more wise and valuable than waiting on them to change.)

He needs some time and space

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And then there is this group of men who decide to block someone just because they feel like this: I need time and space (because apparently, it’s easier than saying it).

This happened to one of my female friends recently and I can’t tell you how mad I was about the whole situation. It was as if it was happening to me.

So, the guy she was hanging out with for some time all of a sudden blocked her.

She was out of her mind because they totally clicked and she saw that they really had potential.

Given that she hadn’t heard about him ever since, she decided to imaginary delete him from her life and continue living as if she never met him.

And then BOOM! The other day, after a few months, he unblocked her on social media and texted her.

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After a few months, people!

She couldn’t believe it, I couldn’t believe it, and I bet all the people within a 5 mile radius couldn’t believe it either.

We were both in shock and disbelief. She couldn’t imagine that he would ever contact her again and to her amazement, he did.

For the first time, he told her that he just needed some time and space to figure everything out and he apologized for disappearing from the face of the earth.


Since when is it easier to block someone and assume that they’ll understand what you meant by it than to say what you really mean to them in person?

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And, the worst of all, do you really expect that they’ll wait for an eternity for you to unblock them, that everything will be the same once you decide to come back all of a sudden? LOL.

I guess guys will never understand the difficulties of their decisions to block us as their significant others out of the blue, literally ruining our mental health just because they needed some space and time.

And we’ll never find a way to deal with them once they decide to come back into our lives. In situations like that, listening to our gut would seem like the best bet.

See also: Does He Need Space Or Is It Over? 7 Ways To Tell

He blocked you for no reason

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The phenomenon “He blocked me on everything” or He blocked me for no reason” happens to a lot of women.

After trying to reach him, you get a voicemail or he sends some of his friends to explain to you that he blocked you for no reason – to convince you that no reason is a reason.

Ladies, if I learned anything during my humble life, it’s this: There is a reason behind every action and for every action, there is a reaction.

In other words, there is a reason why he blocked you and you have every right to be pissed off about it.

You have every right to yell, scream, or curse, but there’s one thing you should never do.

Don’t just accept that he blocked you for no reason or beg him to come back and explain to you what happened.

The possible reasons why he blocked you are listed above, so if you haven’t figured it out yet, it’s better to re-read it again than to lie to yourself.

woman at home looking confused at her phone

The only way to deal with the situation is by first accepting it and understanding it.

And thinking that there’s no reason behind his action will not help. It will only prolong your pain and misery.

So, be honest with yourself and accept the reason, no matter how difficult it seems to do so.

Other Things To Consider…

To help you understand the real reason why he blocked you (and whether he will ever unblock you), here are some additional questions to consider:

Is this the first time he blocked you or has he done it before?

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If this is not the first time he’s blocked you, then you know it’s his way of dealing with problems.

I know many people who block their partner literally whenever anything bad happens because they don’t know how to cope with it. There was this one guy who blocked me on Facebook not once but multiple times. It was hilarious.

And sometimes it’s not even a big deal, but they still do it because it’s their way of dealing with negative things in life.

They think that by simply deleting the other person, they will delete all the negativity as well. And usually, after some time, they come to their senses and unblock the person.

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But, if he’s never done it before, then you know it’s not his way of dealing with problems, it’s something else.

The reason is probably one of the above or is hiding in the following questions below. All you need to do is open your eyes and look closely!

Were you fighting over something or did you hurt each other’s feelings in some way?

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If you were having an argument of some sorts during which you said lots of harsh words to each other, then this might be the reason why he blocked you.

When you’re feeling mad, hurt, or disappointed, it’s hard to think rationally. All you can think of is how to make it go away.

And that’s why some people use this blocking method as a way of wiping negative things from their life. But this doesn’t help in the long run.

Even though he blocked you, he will still be unable to forget about what happened because it will haunt him.

Because of that, there’s a good chance that he will unblock you once he’s recharged and had time to think things through.

Could his friends or family have told him to block you for some reason?

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Multiple times I’ve witnessed the situation where friends and family advise someone to do certain things like blocking, deleting numbers, stop seeing the person, and so on.

It’s important to understand that it’s one thing to give advice, but telling them what to do and controlling their love life is a totally different thing.

And perhaps this has happened to you too.

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One way to find out whether this is true is by asking your mutual friends about it, but you definitely don’t want to go too deep when it comes to this one.

Arguing with his loved ones over him blocking you could escalate real quickly and you don’t need all that extra drama in your life.

We can all make decisions for ourselves, so the sheer fact that he’s obeying other people’s commands says a lot about his “maturity.”

Were you too intrusive after you broke up?

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Breakups are always tough and sometimes they make us do things we would (usually) never have thought of doing.

We become stalkers, creepers. We sit next to our phone 24/7 in the hopes that they will call or text us.

And when they don’t, we decide to take the initiative and hope they’ll reciprocate. We become too intrusive without even being aware of it.

By being too intrusive, I mean constantly texting, calling, begging, stalking, and other actions that have perhaps motivated him to block you.

I know it sounds harsh, but he was probably annoyed by all those calls and texts from you, that’s why he decided to block you.

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But still, you shouldn’t give a damn about it. And you know why?

Because you obviously care about him a lot and you were trying to tell him that, but he didn’t give you a chance to say what you really mean.

The easiest thing a man can do is block someone, but it takes courage to deal with an issue. That’s how you know whether he’s a real man or just another prick.

See also: 11 Things To Do When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him

Did he ask you to give him some space (but you didn’t)?

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Men are really weird when it comes to the “needing space” thing and you can never know what they really think or need.

But, if he specifically asked you to give him some space and you didn’t, then you know why he blocked you.

Perhaps he needed some time alone to reflect on your relationship or whatever you call it, and because you didn’t give it to him, he decided to do it his way and block you.

If that is the case, you can’t be mad at him because he asked you to give him space, but you decided not to do it.

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Because of that, he might classify you as being needy and selfish. But, you shouldn’t really worry about it either because this doesn’t mean that he’s blocked you for good.

It’s just that he took some time and space for himself and when he’s done with it, he will probably unblock you sooner than you think.

Will He Come Back After Blocking Me?

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The answer to the question “He blocked me, will he come back?” depends greatly on the reason why he did so in the first place.

If he blocked you for reasons apart from these two: He knows blocking you will hurt you and He wants to delete you from his life, then there’s a high chance he might unblock you at some point.

Remember my friend’s situation in the He needs some time and space section?

Well, you can expect the exact same situation to happen to you as well, regardless if the reason is him needing space or not wanting to hurt you.

He might unblock you after a week, a month, a couple of months, or even a year. It all depends on what is really going on in his head and how much time he needs to sort it all out.

sad woman sitting in bed at home alone

As already said, some men need more time, while others less. Now, I’m not saying that you should wait for him to unblock you (even if it means waiting for ages).

All I’m saying is that it’s possible and it’s very likely that it will happen.

We’ll talk more about it later on. Now let’s focus on what you should do or not do in the meantime!

He Blocked Me: What To Do About It?

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Now that we’re done with all those possible reasons why he blocked you, it’s time to see what you can do about it.

And no, this doesn’t include stalking, texting, or calling him. If you do this, you will neither succeed in forgetting him or getting him to unblock you. You will only make things worse.

You see, when someone blocks you, there are only two things you should focus on doing (or not doing) for the best possible outcome:

Never reach out to him again

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Instead of wasting your time sitting next to your phone and thinking about the question “Why did he block me?” I advise never reaching out to him again. No texts, messaging, and NO stalking on social media.

Why? Because never reaching out is ten times more powerful than reaching out.

The reason why he blocked you is because he temporarily doesn’t want to be in touch with you (for some reason), so desperately trying to contact him will only make things worse than they are already.

You don’t want him to think that you’re needy or desperate and that you don’t have your own life without him, but that you’re perfectly fine without him, that blocking you is his loss and not yours.

You want him to see that you’re an independent woman and you don’t need people in your life who aren’t willing to be with you or worthy of being with you.

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When he realizes all that, he will also realize the mistake of blocking you and want you back.

At some point, he will unblock you and when he does, it’s up to you what you will decide to do.

You have two choices: you can either continue living your best life without him or give him another chance to reunite.

See also: How To Get Over A Guy: 14 Steps To Help You Forget Him In No Time

Give him some time before reaching out

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If you’re determined about getting him back and you don’t want to wait forever on him to finally decide to unblock you and contact you, there is another option and that is giving him some time before reaching out to him!

The emphasis is on giving him SOME TIME because in order to get him to unblock you, you need to first make him miss you.

And making someone miss you is all about giving them some space and time for that to develop.

Now, I won’t lie to you. Sometimes, even when you give them some space and time, nothing changes.

There is a chance that when you reach him out, he won’t be interested in coming back to you or explaining why he blocked you in the first place (in case the reason is still unknown).

Therefore, being the first one to reach him out is a risky move and it might not bring you positive results.

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But as always, it’s all up to you! In situations like this, I personally always choose to follow my heart and listen to my gut.

If my gut is telling me that I should do it and if my feelings are still intense, there’s no need to think twice about it, no matter the outcome.

And do you know why? Because in the end, you only regret the things you didn’t do and not the ones you did!

5 Things That Will Encourage Him To Unblock You And Reach Out To You

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As already said, in situations like this, there are two possible outcomes: letting go or reuniting.

In case you’re not ready to let him go and you’re also not ready to reach him out directly (because it’s risky), there are some things you can do in order to subtly encourage him to unblock you and come back to you!

Yup! If you do the following things, he will likely realize that blocking you was a stupid thing to do and regret his actions instantly.

If he didn’t block you on all social media…

Post pictures of yourself having fun and enjoying life to the fullest

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Trust me, there is nothing more powerful than seeing someone having the time of their life and enjoying every second of it. This is especially true when it comes to blocking.

When you block someone, it’s normal that you expect them to be confused and sad about it, and want to desperately try to reach out to you.

And when they don’t, you immediately start thinking about what is really going on and whether they care about you in the first place.

That’s exactly how he will feel if you keep posting pictures of yourself having fun and enjoying life to the fullest.

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If he keeps seeing you laughing with your friends, enjoying new activities, and doing plenty of other interesting things, he will realize that your life is still awesome without him in it. And because of that, he will want to be a part of it.

He won’t be able to accept the fact that you don’t really care that he blocked you and he’ll want to reach out to you in order to see if you still care about him.

Create mystery

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While it’s important to let him know that you’re enjoying life, it’s also important not to overdo it.

From time to time, you need to create mystery by not posting anything. Let him wonder about what you’re doing and what’s going on in your life instead of showing him your every move.

When he sees that you’re inactive online for some time, his imagination will go wild, thinking of all the exciting things happening in your life, and because of that, you have no time to even post a picture about it.

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You’re so focused on enjoying every second of it that you forget about everything else, even social networking.

That’s the message you want to send him. That’s the message that will motivate him to reach out and come back to you!

If he blocked you on everything…

Meet new people

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Instead of doing nothing and overthinking why he blocked you, it’s important that you get out and meet new people.

I don’t mean finding new potential partners, but simply hanging out with new people that might end up becoming your good friends.

When he sees that you moved on and continued living your best life, he will know that he’s slowly but surely losing you and become anxious about you meeting someone new who might just be better than him!

Discover and feed your passions

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“He blocked me and it hurts. I don’t know what to do with myself.” DON’T think about those things. Think about the things you enjoy doing – singing, drawing, skiing, swimming, dancing, cooking – and do them on a regular basis.

Nourish your passions because they are the essence of your being and happiness.

All this will make you ooze with positive energy and when he sees you somewhere (and you know at some point he will), he will be attracted to you like crazy.

He’ll see that you’re fulfilled and complete without him, which will trigger him to unblock you because he’ll desperately want to be a part of your life once again!

Surround yourself with people who love you

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The law of attraction says: You attract what you think and you receive what you believe.

So, instead of dwelling in your negative thoughts and wondering why he blocked you, surround yourself with people who love you.

Believe in positive things, live with love, and surround yourself with positive people who care about you. And the universe will do the rest of the job for you.

If he’s the right one for you, he’ll unblock you and reach out. And if he’s not, the universe will protect you from potential heartbreak.

Focus On Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself!

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If I need to summarize all of the above said, it would be this:

Focus on enjoying life and becoming the best version of yourself!

Instead of only overthinking and focusing on negative things that come with the sentence He blocked me, think about yourself and what you can do to make your life more meaningful and fulfilled.

Remember that it all starts with you. Just because he blocked you, it doesn’t mean that your life is over. Keep living your best life and things will fall into place sooner than you think!


Category: Dealing with breakup

Roberta Carroll

My approach is eclectic and holistic with a focus on mindfulness. I have received certifications in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Processing Therapy (trauma), among others. I spent over 10 years at the Veteran’s Administration in Louisville, KY, working as a psychotherapist with veterans of all ages and genders on a wide variety of issues. Prior to that my focus was on young adults and their families and older adults dealing with loss. Individuals have met with me for help to address depression and anxiety, grief, trauma and relational issues as well as work-related/everyday stressors. The therapeutic process provides a safe place for the client, in collaboration with their therapist, to process distress, discover areas of “stuckness” and move forward into a life of increased meaning and joy. Accepting our imperfections and practicing self-compassion can be a difficult as well as rewarding process. I have lived and worked in different areas of the country, have come to understand how regional differences affect our outlooks and appreciate the contrasts. I have relished the opportunity to assist clients as they carry the burdens of life. It would be my privilege to hear your story.

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