Getting over him

6 Ways To Find Peace After A Toxic Relationship


All of you who have been met with the horrors of a toxic relationship know how badly it can hurt.

The whole time of your relationship you were thinking that you were living with your best friend and your soulmate when in fact the man you were living with was nothing more than your worst enemy.

So, you decide to break up with him because it doesn’t make any sense to hold on to something that isn’t real anymore.

But the questions are: How do you recover from a relationship like that? How do you find closure and your inner peace?

For all of you who have been hurt and don’t know what to do or how to behave after a toxic relationship, I will offer some of the most effective ways to get back on your feet again and once and for all heal your broken heart.

Stay away from your ex

lonely woman watching the sea

The most important thing to do is to stay away from your ex.

In that way, you will save yourself from tears because there is no doubt that you will become emotional and that you will start crying as soon as you see him.

So don’t contact him, no matter how much you want to.

In your worst moment, when you have a crisis, go out and do anything that would make you not think of him because if you now go back to him it would mean giving him another bullet to kill you because he missed the last time.

Think about the life you will have now that he is not a part of your life anymore and be happy for saving yourself from a toxic man who would only have made your life a living hell in the future.

Refresh the bonds with your family and friends

happy friends having lunch together

When you were with your ex, he convinced you that you didn’t need anyone except him, so you didn’t have a lot of contact with your family and friends.

Now that you are on your own again, make sure that you call your family and your friends and talk to them about what happened to you.

They will definitely understand your situation and they won’t be mad at you.

Deep down, they know that you were head over heels for a man who didn’t deserve you and that you just wanted to please him so you could have a good life.

Start going to the gym

woman working out in the gym

It is a known fact that people feel much better after a workout session. It helps us feel better because we get rid of all of our bad emotions and all the toxicity from our body.

If you don’t like working out, you can enroll in yoga classes because that can also help you to feel better.

The most important thing is that you feel that you can do things that make you happy and fulfilled and that you feel that you are doing something good for you.

Also, a bonus is that at those classes you can meet many nice people who could be your potential friends.

Don’t jump into another relationship

young woman smiling

The worst thing that can happen to you is to jump into a new relationship soon after you ended a toxic one. Darling, you are not ready for something like that.

When you start to date a new guy, you will overanalyze things, over and over again, thinking that every man will be toxic like your ex. Take some time to heal and only then start a new relationship.

Don’t think that you will miss out on something if you don’t start dating right away.

You need to learn to love yourself again and then give your love to a new man.

Do things that you enjoyed doing before

relaxed woman reading a book

I am sure that every one of you had some hobbies when you were single.

But little by little you somehow stopped doing them because you were occupied with your partner and making his wishes come true instead.

After you get rid of his toxic hands and his mouth that would always tell you sweet lies, it is time to put yourself first.

Do things that make you happy.

Do things that you once loved to do because they will remind you of better times.

Think about the fact that you saved yourself from an asshole who didn’t know to cherish you and that you will never let any man treat you like he did.

Once you start doing things that you like, you will see many positive changes in your life.

Forgive yourself

calm woman breathing fresh air

I know that you will have been blaming yourself for letting one man treat you like that but you need to let that go.

You need to forgive yourself so you can move on.

The fact is that you didn’t want anything bad to happen to you and just because it did, that doesn’t mean that you were guilty of it.

Your only sin was to fall in love with the wrong man and that was it.

So don’t be too harsh on yourself and forgive yourself for all your past mistakes.

There is your whole life in front of you and you can do so many positive things and make yourself feel much better.

Remember, life will always give you another chance to correct the things you didn’t do right the first time.


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Roberta Carroll

My approach is eclectic and holistic with a focus on mindfulness. I have received certifications in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Processing Therapy (trauma), among others. I spent over 10 years at the Veteran’s Administration in Louisville, KY, working as a psychotherapist with veterans of all ages and genders on a wide variety of issues. Prior to that my focus was on young adults and their families and older adults dealing with loss. Individuals have met with me for help to address depression and anxiety, grief, trauma and relational issues as well as work-related/everyday stressors. The therapeutic process provides a safe place for the client, in collaboration with their therapist, to process distress, discover areas of “stuckness” and move forward into a life of increased meaning and joy. Accepting our imperfections and practicing self-compassion can be a difficult as well as rewarding process. I have lived and worked in different areas of the country, have come to understand how regional differences affect our outlooks and appreciate the contrasts. I have relished the opportunity to assist clients as they carry the burdens of life. It would be my privilege to hear your story.

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